By Don Miguel Ruiz
A practical Guide to personal freedom. Self summary – In The Four Agreements, don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, this advice offers powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness and love.
I liked this book and will keep it for my son to read.
The author’s family taught him the Toltec wisdom. His mother a curandera (healer) and his grandfather a nagual (shaman). A shaman by definition is a person regarded as having access to, and influence in, the world of good and evil spirits. Ruiz shares his family’s simple but very profound teaching of four simple truths.
- Be impeccable with your words. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
- Don’t take anything personal. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be a victim of needless suffering.
- Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you want. Talk as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama.
- Always do your best. You will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.
I like small books with simple truths. They are easier to remember and understand. With the first rule I find myself listening more and talking less. The second rule I quit letting other people’s opinion of me matter so much. The third rule, I stopped thinking that I know exactly what is going on in any given situation. I’m more open to other possibilities. The last rule is the most rewarding I think. Every job I’ve ever done my best it led to better jobs where the pay was better and more satisfying.
My son is too young to understand this book and wouldn’t take the time to read it. When the time is right and hopefully before he is out of high school, I will ask him to read it. I believe it leads to a life of integrity, prosperity and less regret.
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